Never marry but for
love; but see that thou lovest what is lovely. He that minds a body
and not a soul has not the better part of that relationship, and
will consequently lack the noblest comfort of a married life.
Between a man and his wife nothing ought rule but love. As love
ought to bring them together, so it is the best way to keep them
A husband and wife
that love one another show their children that they should do so
too. Others visibly lose their authority in their families by their
contempt of one another, and teach their children to be unnatural by
their own examples.
Let not enjoyment
lessen, but augment, affection; it being the basest of passions to
like when we have not, what we slight when we possess.
Here it is we ought
to search out our pleasure, where the field is large and full of
variety, and of an enduring nature; sickness, poverty or disgrace
being not able to shake it because it is not under the moving
influences of worldly contingencies.
Nothing can be more
entire and without reserve; nothing more zealous, affectionate and
sincere; nothing more contented than such a couple, nor greater
temporal felicity than to be one of them.
Let your love be
stronger than your hate and anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little
than to break. Believe the best rather than the worst.
People have a way of living up or down to your opinion of them.
Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting
relationship. The person you choose to marry is deserving of the
courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.
Please hand this down to your children and your children's children.
Jane Wells (1886)
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